Saturday, February 26, 2011

Friendster Stalk

Guess where this "About Me" came from?

That was me once upon a time ago. Seems like I was just as turbulent in emotions last time as I am now. Guess it's wired in my personality then. Not a very good thing though. The last thing that I want would be to have a high neuroticism trait that is stable over a long period of time. No matter how you look at it, either through common sense or through social sciences, people who are emotionally unstable most of the time will go much less further in life.

And if what if studied so far is anything to go by, one of the ways to make people like you is to make them happy when they're with you. That way, they'll attribute the positive emotions that they feel with you and it turn will make them view you in a positive light. The same can be said vice versa too, sadly. Make people feel bad when they're with you and you'll spend most of your time alone. Nobody wants to be near a sour grape, after all.

Like it or not, seems like I have to choice but to change this personality of mine. It will be tough, considering that the tendency to feel sad and to see life in a negative light is wired to my genes, after all, but that doesn't mean I should give up just because I'm born with this handicap. Besides, research has shown that if given enough effort, personalities can be changed.

So I guess, I have to be more positive now and start smiling more often rather than be negative all the time. Now that I come to think of it, all my close friends seem to associate me with emo-ness all the time too. Ah, shucks, guess this would boil down to one of the oldest debate going on in Psychology as far as changing my personality is concerned. The Nature versus Nurture debate. How much of our life is pre-determined as compared to how much of our life that we can change?

I'm choosing the nurture's argument though. Although we might be born with a set of predispositions and tendencies, like high neuroticism, if given enough effort and motivation, we can modify and change it. Nothing is set in stone (with the exception of my handsome looks) and we control our destiny, not some genes we have. All it takes is the will to do it.

Funny how a random Friendster stalk made me realized this. Alright Lukey, I guess it's time to smile more often and inject more humor into this blog! No more emo-ing! Bwahahaha

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