Tuesday, August 30, 2016

Day 29: Am I the very best yet?

I want to be the very best... It turns out that when thousands of people are humming the same tune as you, being the very best isn't actually as easy as a Gameboy journey. Especially when you have to contend with people who do not have to sleep, work or simply have the magical powers to teleport around whenever and wherever.

Yet you continue to persevere, because you believe that authentic hardwork will pay off one day. With a wild hope in your heart, you imagine yourself catching that elusive 3500CP Dragonite and finally becoming the Pokemon master you have always dreamt of since young.

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But with each CP10 Pidgey and Ratata that fills up your screen every time you go Pokemon hunting, you're beginning to wonder if that Pokemon master dream is achievable at all. Your strongest Pokemon is a CP1000+ Vaporeon that you were lucky enough to evolve from an Eevee because it only takes 25 candy. Every gym that you see, on the other hand, contains Pokemon that are way out of your league.

CP2900 Dragonite? Another CP1900 Snorlax? Or a Gyarados? Where do all these people get such strong Pokemons anyway? Do they camp day and night at Hougang?

It's not like you don't try. Every weekend when you have the time, you drag either your friend or family who doesn't really like Pokemon down to the nearby park with you. There, you walk in circles continuously, hoping that lady luck will eventually smile on you and grant you a rare and strong Pokemon that everyone but you seem to have.

Despite how many Weedles, Ratata, Caterpie or Pidgey that appear, you continue to hold out the hope that maybe, just maybe, the next Pokemon you catch will be a game changer. Day after day, week after week.

And out of the blue on any other weekend, you began to feel something different. People around you who are holding their phones upright began to sound more excited. There are murmurs of a rare Pokemon nearby. Some of them began pointing and moving towards a certain direction.

With nothing to lose, you decide to follow the crowd. That's when you begin to hear the name of the rare Pokemon. The murmurs began growing louder, until an excited voice accidentally shouted the Pokemon's name out. Dragonite!

You check your phone of the sightings nearby. This better not be one of those stupid pranks. And true enough, among the Pidgey and Ratata sightings that you're so used to, a black shadow of a Pokemon stood. Your heart is beating anxiously now as you try to locate it. You try to see where the crowd is the most dense, and start to make your way to it.

In your head, you're imagining how life would change with a Dragonite. Gyms will no longer be a problem and you even began to entertain the thought of finally earning Pokecoins from the gym. And then, the all too familiar vibration. You raise your phone up to study the screen, praying to whatever Pokegod up there that it's not another stupid Weedle.

And just there at the edge of the circle, you see a orange greenish Pokemon with wings. You hear a few gasps around you. It was unmistakenly Dragonite. The Pokemon that everyone would kill to have.

Not wanting to waste even a single second, you immediately tap on the Pokemon, holding your breath. And there it is, the strongest Gen 1 Dragon, with all its form and glory. A Pokemon that you have seen so many people own, but never yourself. And right next to its name, the CP reads the magical "???".


This is it, you tell yourself. You cannot afford to screw this one up. All your Pokeball flipping brings you down to this very moment. A dance with Dragonite.

Instinctively, you tap your bag and start your first move with a Razz Berry. That berry better do its job. The hearts pop up, signalling that the Pokemon is ready for the catch. Next, you open up your bag again, and switch your Pokeball for Ultra Balls. A rare Pokemon like Dragonite requires the best balls you have, pun not intended. It's such a shame they don't have Master Ball in the game.

Balls ready, you begin to position your finger, eyes not leaving the Dragonite, hoping to land the best shot that you can muster. The inner circle is red now, signalling the difficulty of your catch. You keep your eyes intently on the size of the circle and just when it contracts to about half the size if the outer white circle, an inner voice shouts "Now!" and you instinctively throw the ball.

The Ultra Ball lands perfectly in the middle of the circle and a "Great!" message pops out. You're still holding your breath, because you know that it doesn't usually change anything. Dragonite then dissolves in a bright flash of red, disappears into the Ultra Ball and then the ball drops unto the ground. Moment of truth.

Around you, there were shouts of joy mixed with disappointed sighs, but you couldn't care less. All that matters is the Ultra Ball in front of you.

One twitch, two twitch... you could almost feel your heart stop beating... and then the familiar click, followed by the display of stars. For a moment, you stood there in silence, wondering if what you're seeing is real. The screen changes to a box, and unmistakenly, you caught it. 500XP for a new Pokemon. A wave of emotions began washing over you. You want to jump, shout, laugh and cry all at the same time.

Dragonite. The long awaited Dragonite. Ever since the first day you started Pokemon Go. You could already picture the rest of your adventure. Gym victory after gym victory. Pokecoins starting to flow in. Suddenly, being the very best doesn't seem like a distant dream anymore.

The game does the routine after catching a new Pokemon. The Dragonite is registered to your Pokedex and you're then brought to the screen detailing the stats of your newly caught Pokemon. You can't possibly feel happier with this catch. It's going to a whole new journey from here onwards.

Until you saw the top corner of your screen.

Dragonite, CP174.

Friday, August 12, 2016

The Middle of the Bell Curve Existential Crisis


I love to dance. But...

But what?

I don't dance as well as others.

So? I thought you enjoyed dancing. Isn't that what matters?

Yeah, I enjoy it. I love dancing, how my body moves to the rhythm of the music, sweating it out. But I can't help but to feel a pang of jealousy and pressure when I see better dancers out there. How they are so quick to learn the moves, even add in their own flavours, while I struggle to even memorise the steps or move correctly. I just feel that I'm not good enough.

And that is an issue because?

I don't know. Maybe it's the recognition that the better dancers are getting. Maybe it's how people look up to them in awe and congratulate them for being good at it, when my love for dancing is not less as theirs. I don't like how they are able to make their passion their living, while I can't. I'm always the awkward backup dancer who's there just because.

You know you can practice and improve yourself right? To be as good as them?

Yes, I know. But that's not entirely my gripe either.

And what other gripes you may have?

I take issue with how life is an unforgiving bell curve. No matter what we do or where we go or what attributes we measure, almost all of the time we are able to fit into a comfortable bell curve. Be it dancing, coding, studying, or even the ability to make money. There will always be people at the top, the high achievers and over performers, followed by the average ones and lastly the under-performers.

We constantly compare to others because of this bell curve, almost all of us wanting to be at the top.

I am going to sound like a bitter dick here but I hate how life rewards those at the top and how there's not one single aspect in life where we can be all equal. Equality is myth, really, a notion that we in the middle create to try to soothe ourselves that we're not that bad. That we have a worth. When in actual sense the higher you go the worthier you are.

Perhaps the key is to stop comparing then? To just do what you want because you love it, instead of hoping for anything in return?

How am I supposed to do that, when our society constantly celebrates those on top of the bell curve. Have ever seen any news feature on the slowest runner in the Olympics or the guy who constantly struggles when he try to sing? No! It's the fastest dude who wins the gold medal and gets a lifelong pension, not the runner who came in last.

To be honest, that's the whole point of life really, to find the bell curve where you're at the top, so you can reap the most rewards there. Life is not about doing what you love, it's about doing what you're good at. Because no matter how much you love dancing, running or gaming, if you cannot be the top, you might as start choosing another passion.

We humans have this flawed perception that if we're passionate at something, we'd naturally be good at it, when it's often not the case.

That's a really bleak way of looking at life. What point are you exactly trying to make, then?

I don't know. I feel that something is broken, or that I'm just a bitter old soul who's jealous of the success of others, but at the same time is not willing to put in the hard work to compensate for other people's talent. Maybe I am envious of those who success come to them easily.

You know that's not how life works right?

Yes, and that's why I curse it. I long for the day or a life where I can just spend the entire day only doing what I love, without worrying about whether it is productive or beneficial. Just plain enjoying myself. I know this type of thinking is indulgently selfish and paints us as slaves to our hormones, which is why here I am, having this discussion with you.

You may be right, but that's not the only way to look at this. Perhaps the bell curve is a system that pushes humanity forward, and by rewarding those who are at the top, we are continuously improving ourselves as a whole. Be it in science, progress or innovation, it's the people at the top that make humanity better.

I don't deny that it may seem unfair to those not in the top but it's a necessary evil. The one thing that sets man apart is our constant desire to improve and to be better than the next person, and this motivation is the ever-burning fuel to our progress as a species. If you take this away, we'll forever remain stagnant, perhaps still living in caves.

Maybe. I guess the question we should be asking is how can we be more inclusive of the low performers in life or should life be just left like that, because having consequence of being at the bottom of the bell curve will push people to move up?

That's a whole different topic altogether.


Monday, August 8, 2016

Is Buying Second Hand Worth it?

The internet has made it easier than ever to buy anything you want. You can choose to buy new or used items on various websites including auction sites. This guide will answer the question "is buying second-hand worth it?". Read this guide to learn about the common pitfalls when buying various products second hand.

What are you Buying
When you are trying to decide whether or not it's a good idea to buy a product second hand, you will first have to think about what you are buying. If you are buying a vacuum cleaner for example then you might not want to buy used because it might not have the suction power it used to have. You might also want to be cautious when buying used or second hand baby items because these might not always be hygienic.

Guarantee
If you buy a second hand product from a high street shop like Cex or London Camera Exchange, then you might also get a guarantee. This will make it safer to buy a used item since if it goes wrong, it will still be covered by a guarantee. Make sure you find out how long the guarantee lasts for. Also be aware that when you buy from auction sites, most items will not have any form of guarantee to protect you.

Is it Good Value?
Compare the amount of money that you will save buying a second hand item compared to buying the same item new. Also make sure you consider the added benefit you will get from buying the new item especially if there is a new improved model available. Ideally you should get a substantial saving buying a used item.

Make your Own Mind up about Used Items
Whether or not it's worth buying something second hand is a very personal question that only you can answer. Sometimes you can get a brilliant deal when buying something used, but other times the small saving you make doesn't make it worthwhile. Decide for yourself whether or not it's beneficial for you to buy a used product.

Sunday, July 31, 2016

The NUS Orientation Saga: Everyone is looking for someone to blame

Picture from ST

The whole NUS orientation saga has been filling my newsfeed for the past two weeks. Not surprising, really, considering how many of my friends (me included) were once from NUS. And as someone who has both participated and organised freshmen camp before, you could say I have a personal stake in this.

From The New Paper's first report on the "rape forfeit" all the way to the blanket ban on all orientation activities, I have been closely watching reactions from both sides, students and members of the public. Naturally, both sides are not happy at all at the outcome. Some even furious.

Students are unhappy that the majority are penalised for the actions of a few, while the public are unhappy at how outrageous some of the orientation activities are. To the public, NUS orientation has suddenly become a place where hormones run wild, where students engage in pervert activities (taken from real ST comments) instead of doing what they should: studying.

I don't blame both sides for being unhappy at how things have turned out. And I can empathize with the university administration for using the blanket ban approach to this situation. What else could they do when after warning is given, students still proceed to do whatever they liked (dunking people into a pond, in this matter)?

What I do feel, however, is that we are too quick to blame the other side for what have happened, without truly understanding the perspective of the other side.

From the students' perspective, I understand how unfair it would seem to have your entire orientation taken away just because some irresponsible party decided to flout the rules. I understand that some may be angry at those who reported the activities. You may think that you know what you're doing, that the old people do not understand you. I was once in that position, wondering why the need to submit so many proposals to the university administration just for one orientation camp.

But the rules are there for a reason. As much as you may hate the procedures, there are set up to protect you and the orientation camps. In your mind you may just want to have some fun, but there are always consequences when it comes to fun. In the eyes of the older generation, teenagers are not to be trusted because they're brash and impulsive. You deciding to flout the rules is just giving the reason for the administration and the public to clamp down more.

As for many of the commentators on ST and CNA, I'm sorry that you see orientation and universities as places of evil. As someone who has been through it before, I can tell you that the good outweighs the bad significantly. For many of us, university life was made much more bearable because of orientation. And trust me that the banging girls is not the only thing we have in mind (though it was something a young me was open to) when it comes to orientation.

Do not simply trust what the media may say, as orientation goes way deeply that what is portrayed in the mainstream. This is what something that many students, including your children if they have attended it, can testify to.

I admit that orientation activities are not perfect. Some do flout the rules knowingly in the name of fun, and these people deserve to face the music. After all, uni is the best place to learn that every action comes with a consequence. But to judge the entire student body, and to go as far as asking for students to be named, shamed and expelled is surely a little extreme.

After all, haven't we all been through the period where we're feeling rebellious and exploratory before? It's all part of growing up. Why must we be so vindictive when it comes to people making mistakes?

To be honest, seeing this entire debate made me lose a little faith in humanity. The real danger of the world today is not that everyone is getting their voice, but rather everyone thinking that their voice should be prioritized above that of everyone else. In the process of wanting our to be be heard, we have forgotten to listen as well.

Sunday, July 10, 2016

My #GoBearDream: Financial Freedom


Debt is a scary word. It's even a scarier situation to be in. I know it, because at the young age of 23, I had the unfortunate experience of being saddled with student debt, something that continues to affect me until today.

If given a choice to go back in time, I wished someone would have told me more about this entire debt thing. Maybe teach me a thing or two about getting out of debt effectively. Because life can be quite a downer when you constantly have to worry about having enough balance in your bank account for the monthly debt repayment.

Nevertheless, being in debt did teach me valuable life lessons, with one of it being the importance of not spending beyond your own means. And slowly that life lesson evolved into a goal and dream that I want to have in life: To be able to live freely without worrying about my finances or money.

Not many people may realise this, but when you spend beyond your means, for example recklessly charging your credit cards without any serious financial planning, you're essentially borrowing from your future. And if you're not careful, you may find yourself being a slave to repaying your debt.

Many people have fallen into this kind of trap, only to have their lives severely limited by the money they owe others. Without financial freedom and planning, you may not be able to do a lot of things in life. Travels, hobbies and passion may all be need to put on hold.

Which is why my dream is to be financially free. To be able to do what I want in life without the worry of money. Because when money is the last concern, the possibilities are endless.

What's your dream in life?

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Thursday, June 30, 2016

How to save money when purchasing appliances



Need a new refrigerator, cooker, washer/dryer set? Not only are appliances costly, there are so many from which to choose, it can seem overwhelming for many buyers in the market. So, when time comes to upgrade, these are a few simple things you can do to find the ideal fit for your home, and of course, save on the price in the process.

Shop around - 
There's no way around it, if you want to save, you have to be a consumer shopper. Compare brands, catalogues, local appliance retailers, online dealers, used and new retailers, and so forth. The more places you visit (locally and online) and the more comparison you do, the more likely it is you will find the best deal out there.

Consider catalogue shopping - 
Catalogues allow for financing options; and, in many cases, if you spend a certain amount on the purchase, interest-free financing for a fixed period. So, you pay the flat price, pay it off over time, and avoid interest from accruing, simply by considering the option of purchasing via catalogue.

Consider all brands - 
Even if you are a brand loyalist, you will often find different manufacturers (and sometimes lesser known names) offer the same exact thing as the top, well-known brand names. But, you can save quite a bit with lesser known names. So, consider this option in choosing new appliances.

Consider used - 
Many retailers sell used appliances; you may initially be opposed to it, but in many cases, some people return appliances without ever using them. And, because they are labelled as "used" you can save 50% on the original price or more. Of course, it's not always a great bet, but at least consider the option if you really wish to save.

You can find affordable appliances, these are some simple tips any shopper can utilise, in an effort to finding the best deal out there to be found.


Wednesday, June 22, 2016

The struggle after work


They say psychologists can read minds. Which may be why I overheard this conversation going on in a guy's head during the trip home back home today.

Brain: So what do you think of the article you just read? That what you do after work determines your success?

Heart: It makes sense and boy, am I pumped up. When we get home, we're gonna read, we're gonna take one of those free courses, we're going to do all these things that will make us a better person. Think of the end result! We're gonna be so much better than where we are at now!

Brain: You really sure you can do this? Because this is not the first time...

Heart: Of course we are! We need to do this after all. It's what we need to do to improve. Imagine all the opportunities that lie ahead if we can pick up a second language in our free time! Or even if we can learn to code!

Brain: You do know it's not going to be easy right? You have to put in the hours, the hard work and the discipline to even remotely achieve some semblance of success. Sometimes there's even nothing to reap what you've sow. It's not an easy...

Heart: Are you doubting me? Don't underestimate my motivation. We're gonna go home today, and we're gonna better ourselves. I don't care about the hard work, I am willing to do it.

Brain: If you say so...



Heart: You know what, I'm too tired after a hard day's work today. Can we rest a little first, maybe play games or watch a show first?

Brain: Sigh.

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Saturday, June 11, 2016

"Guns make the world a safer place"

Picture from Christina's Facebook

Christina Grimmie, aged 22, was shot dead today after her concert by a man who randomly walked up to her. She's not the first to die from a senseless gun-related death and neither will she be the last. There are some who are already asking people not to bring a political agenda to her death but when you have people dying daily from shootings, is it really still a political agenda or is it part of a bigger issue of protecting our basic right to live?

I'm no US citizen but I have to say that this whole obsession over the right to own guns continues to defy me. I know it's not my argument to make, but to be honest unless you have lost someone to gun violence, it's not your argument to make in support of guns too.

I occasionally read US news and whenever a news on gun related death pops up, you have the usual gun supporters appear, getting all defensive about this whole gun debate. If only they can see how US compare to the whole wide world. If only they seriously consider the numbers. But most of the time, they refuse to look at the other side of the argument, defending their position zealously with the same rehashed arguments.

Arguments like:


1. You can kill others with other means (ie knife) as well

Obviously these people have not played any shooting games like Counter-Strike before, because if you do, you would have realised how hard it is to kill someone with a knife as compared to a gun. Yes, you can still stab someone to death, but that would require you to get close enough to the person and even then, the number of people you can stab at one go before getting stopped by bystanders is terribly limited.

With a gun, you can shoot someone from afar before the person even knows what is going on. And did anyone mention that the mortality rate from a stab wound is much lower than a gunshot wound? A knife abdominal wound has a 1% mortality rate, whereas a gunshot abdominal wound has 11-15% mortality rate. That's more than 10% difference, which is a lot.

Even if you can reduce death rates by 10%, shouldn't you be open to that?


2. Even with strict gun laws you can still easily buy guns from the black market if you wanted to

I assume people who make statements like this watch too much Hollywood movies, who assume that going to the black market is as easy as going to Walmart or your store next door. While black markets exist, it's called a black market for a reason. You need connections to know where to go. To these people, since guns exist in the black market, it won't won't make a difference if you put them in Walmart, 7-11s or Amazon.

To those who make this argument, I would love to see you go to a country like France (because that's one of the common arguments used) and try to get a gun from the black market there. Or any country with strict gun laws, since it's so easy.


3. Guns don't kill, it's the people who do

Yes guns don't kill, but the potential of them killing is so much higher than say a pillow. Cars don't kill, terrible drivers do, but that's not stopping us from making safer cars and enacting laws to make driving safer, such a speeding rules, traffic lights and licensing so that we don't put incompetent people behind the wheels.

But somehow, the logic of owning a car / driving does not apply to owning a gun / shooting. Because guns ownership is seen as a universal right. That's like your 80 year old grandma demanding to be given the keys to your car because it's her "universal right".


4. There are so many other ways a person can die, eg car accidents, smoking etc. Why target guns specifically?

Yes, while this is true, but as mentioned in Point 3, people are coming with all ways to make driving and smoking safer or less accessible. There's drive safe campaigns and anti-smoking campaigns, regulators are coming with age limits and product messages to try to deter people from smoking. But when you try to introduce iniatives like the smart gun and you have angry mobs accusing you of trying to take away their guns.


5. But if the victim had a gun he/she would have perhaps stayed alive!

Perhaps the most absurd argument of all is that if everyone is allowed to have guns to protect themselves, we won't have so many people dying from gun related deaths. The only reason why people die from gun incidents is because they can't pull out a gun to defend themselves. These are also the people who watch too much Hollywood movies.

After all, how many of us go to schools, concerts or restaurants with our hands on our guns (even if we have them) all the time, absolutely prepared in case someone comes inside shooting? Wouldn't that be a terribly paranoid life, where we are constantly on the lookout for a shooter (in case there's one) instead of focusing on what we're actually doing (ie eating, studying, or just enjoying ourselves)?

Surprise is always the biggest factor when it comes to the amount of damage inflicted because shooters always strike when you least expect it. Unless you want the country to become a Wild Wild West state, where everyone is prepared to shoot everyone at any time.


But at the end of the day, nothing will really change. Because gun ownership is so intertwined with the American identity, along with the politics and money behind it, that any attempts to discuss the issue will be violently and dismissively shut down, like any other national issue.

It's sad though, because if there's one thing that defines the world today, it's how unwilling we are to accept arguments contrary to our own, not matter how logical they are. It's even sadder than we have to continue losing beautiful souls unneccesarily just because.

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Thursday, June 2, 2016

Outraged over Harambe and the Cincinnati Zoo?


The internet has been flooded with outrage over the the recent Cincinnati Zoo incident recently. Harambe, a silverback gorilla, was killed by authorities after a four-year old boy fell into the enclosure,in an attempt to save the boy's life.

The popular opinion right now? The authorities have been wrong in shooting Harambe, because people either believed that he was trying to protect the kid or that there was a better option that does not involve the killing of this magnificent creature. A significant portion is also blaming the parents for being negligent in allowing the child to enter the enclosure.

Basically, the authorities are at fault and the parents are at fault for this killing that could have been easily prevented. There's even a petition demanding justice for Harambe,whatever that means.


Who made you the gorilla expert: The speed at how we form impressions.And projection much?

Some of the earliest reactions to the incident were that Harambe the gorilla was actually "protecting"the child, rather than intending to harm him. These are perhaps the people who perhaps watched too much Disney movies, because if you were to watched the whole video of the incident,the one where Harambe dragged the child across water with the child's head under the water, it's really tough to believe that he was actually trying to"protect" the child.

Many people tried to justify their logic through an incomplete understanding of the entire chain of events ("the photo showed them holding hands!" or "the video showed him holding the child!"),or through off-hand suggestions that is not well-informed, like the use of tranquilizer (it would take 10-15 minutes for tranquilizers to work, and sometimes multiple shots, which could have agitated the gorilla more).

But the way people formed their own judgement over the incident is perhaps indicative of how we make decisions today: a quick snappy decision based on a simple fact, without the full understanding of the entire incident. We take one piece of information and fill in the gaps ourselves.

"Oh the gorilla is holding the child's hands, he must be protecting the child."

With so much news and information bombarding us nowadays, who has the time to look beyond the information that we're given? (Explains how Trump is so popular)




Damned if they do, damned if they don't

It's also amusing to see how fast people jumped into condemning the zoo, as if they knew that if the zoo didn't kill the gorilla, all will be well by now. The boy will be returned safely and Harambe will continue to live happily.

What they didn't realise is that should the unfortunate opposite have happened, where the boy lost his life, there will be an equal amount of outrage.

"Why didn't the zoo do anything?" / "Why was the zoo so slow to respond?" / "The zoo should have just killed the gorilla to protect the boy!"

Who's say that this won't happen if the opposite took place? When it comes to the internet today, there's just no pleasing anyone.


Karma! Justice! Revenge! Eye for an eye! We don't care if we are all blind!

It's also sad to see how eager we've become to see "justice" served or some form of revenge meted out when it comes to incidents like this. In our mind, someone always has to "pay". Instead of forgiveness, we all prefer punishment instead. So everyone goes to harass the poor mother because she hasn't been a "good" mother, just because her child wandered off.

As if we are all magically good parents. As if it will make us all better people if we are to cyber-bully the mum, throw accusations at her or make her life a living hell. As if Harambe will thank us for calling the mum irresponsible.

And it's the same for every other person that we assume to be "bad" on the internet. The dentist who hunted in Africa for example. The blogger who made a mistake. What are we trying to prove anyway?

With all these new age keyboard vigilantes around,who needs Batman anymore?


Don't let this end up as another slacktivism drive

Perhaps the saddest thing is how we all assume that we are doing good by starting some petition to demand justice, to post some angry comments online about animals or to harass the mum. I believe that all these stems from good intentions but these give nothing more than an illusion that what we're doing is making a difference.

More often than not, we'll get angry over this a while, signed some petition thinking that the petition will accomplish something then move on to another hype when this dies down. And the amount of change we achieve at the end of this entire thing? None.

It'll be a classic example of slacktivism.

If you truly care about zoos, animals or Harambe, then go beyond posting a comment online that will eventually be lost in the online noise. Because that's no different than shouting to the wall asking for poverty to end. Donate, volunteer, raise awareness. Sustain the effort. Only then perhaps you'll make a difference.


The death of Harambe is indeed an unfortunate incident, but it has indeed raised important discussions about zoo safety and the captivity of animals. Get angry if you must, but not at the wrong places. Think that the mum is wrong? Then think of how can we improve parent knowledge (though accidents still can happen to the best parents). Think that animals should not be kept in zoos?Then do your part in making the wild a safer place for animals.

Because at the end of the day if you're just angry because everyone else is angry, then you're just joining into a mob mentality that ultimately leads to nothing constructive. Like shouting against a wall. Or worse, making another person's life more miserable than it should be.

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Tuesday, May 31, 2016

If complaining is bad for our health, why do we still complain?

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Complaining is bad for your health, research confirms. Not a surprising finding. After all, some of the most bitter people are avid complainers in life, who sucks any joy or positivity from the people around them. They grumble about everything in life, refuses to see any good and is just a downer to be around. Even if you throw them a bar of gold they'll still complain that it's heavy.

But yet, why do we still complain? Why do some of us make it our hobby to complain? You don't have to look far from Singapore to see this.

Perhaps it's the easier way to deal with problems. Perhaps it stems from a privileged mentality since young. Perhaps complaining is a more primitive emotion, like how a child first learns how to complain before giving thanks. Where gratefulness is something that needs to be instilled, whereas complaining comes naturally without practice.

Perhaps this is why many of us are unhappy. Because despite overwhelming evidence out there that supports the benefits of gratitude, it's not something that we actively inculcate in our society. It's not good for politics or capitalism if we're content with what we have.

So society creates this gap where we're constantly unhappy, where the person next to us is better than us. Because when we complain, we feel that there's something missing. And when there's something missing, we try to compensate for it by doing something. Either we buy stuff or we lash out at others. A culture of complaining helps politicians stay in power (no politicians is going to get elected saying that everything is good) and helps fuel the economy.

And in essence, from the gap that complaining creates, it fuels humanity's progress too. For example Edison may have created the light bulb because he was complaining about how hard it is to light candles (as the popular story goes).

Sad right? Because how sometimes you need something negative to keep society progressing and how nothing is truly black and white?

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