a beautiful sadness
Butters: *crying*Goths: You can join us if you want. We're gonna go to the graveyard and write poems about death and how pointless life is.Butters: Ah no thanks. I love life.Stan: Huh? But you just got dumped.Butters: Yeah and I am sad. But at the same time I'm really happy that something can make me feel that sad. It makes me feel alive ya know? It makes me feel human. The only way I could feel this sad now is if I felt something really good before. I have to take the bad with the good. So I guess what I'm feeling is a beautiful sadness.. I guess that sounds stupid..Goths: Yeah..Stan: No. No Butters, that doesn't sound stupid at all.
|one of the most profound moment in south park. source: http://imgur.com/NVLpd|
I've been watching South Park faithfully for months now ever since coming across it during a gathering in a friend's house and even after 7 seasons worth of episodes, Trey Parker and Matt Stone never fails to impress me with their witty humor and sarcastic take on life. While I do enjoy most of their light hearted episodes where they poke fun on everything from Christians to anti-smokers, it's episodes like this that sometimes strike a chord in my life.
In this episode, both Stan and Butters were dumped by their girlfriends, someone whom they loved a lot. When Stan first found out about it, he couldn't come to grips with reality. Faced with the immense pain of having to live his days differently now, he chose to blame life instead, wondering why it would play such a cruel joke on him, eventually becoming a goth kid like what you see above. He chose to hate life for the experience, thinking that life itself is nothing but misery and pain.
In a way, Stan represents a lot of us when we are dealt a hard blow in life. We often curse and swear at God or life, depending on whether you're religious, and wondered why we have to deal with such a hardship. We become more pessimistic, giving up hope somewhere along the way and viewing life in a much more negative manner. Afraid of experiencing the pain again, we shut our hearts in and prefer not to venture out anymore. We begin to hate life and lose the optimism that we once had for it. Like Stan, we would come to think that because of that one bad experience, life is nothing but pain. Just because we fell down once, we allow it to affect our entire outlook of life.
What we often do not realize that pain, sorrow and disappointment, all the negative emotions that we dread to face, are part and parcel of life. Like what Butters said, we are able to feel pain because we once felt joy and it is our ability to be hurt that is what makes us human. Sure, the experience itself might hurt a lot and it's not one bit enjoyable but it is through that painful experience that you learn to grow and appreciate all the other things in life. It is a part of life, where you have to "take the bad and the good" together.
So don't be sad just because you're feeling so much pain right now. Instead, be thankful too that you're able to feel it because it proves that you're still very much a human inside. Like a beautiful sadness, so to say.
Time to start loving life rather than hating it, even though it may mean accepting the painful side of it too. Not to question it or to deny it, but to merely accept it as a part of life.